5 Ways to Practice Getting out of Your Comfort Zone

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” Brian Tracy

Are you afraid of doing new things? Early in my career, I was asked to speak to a small group of people. I was petrified to talk to more than one person at a time. What would they think of me?

I agreed to introduce someone who would present the material. Each opportunity to speak I would talk a little longer until finally, I was presenting to large groups for one-day training. If I had never agreed to take that small step I might never have done the large presentations. Now I love giving live presentations.

All of us have something that we don’t like to do or are afraid of doing that is holding us back. My coaching clients are always saying they can’t get new leads because: “I don’t feel comfortable calling them,” ” what if they don’t want my services,” ” I don’t know how to make a landing page,” or ” I have never been good at that.” To grow personally and in your business, you need to practice getting out of your comfort zone. Try new things. Learn how to do something you have never done before. Here are 5 ways to practice getting uncomfortable. If you practice being uncomfortable, then you will begin to be comfortable with the feeling of being uncomfortable.

Go Ziplining

I love to go on roller coasters and will go over and over again. But I am terrified of having my feet dangle on the Ferris wheel or walking on a metal platform that you can see all the way to the ground. My kids wanted to go zip-lining and asked me to go along. I figured the zip-line would have a similar feel of the roller coaster, so I was game. What I didn’t count on was the rope bridge you had to walk on between the zip lines.  The rope bridge appeared halfway through the course so there was no turning back. I was petrified! I kept telling myself that it was a great lesson in overcoming fear.

Ask for a discount

My daughter-in-law is the best at getting a discount. I am always amazed how she can get a bargain. The difference between her and me is that she asks for the discount. She doesn’t always get one, but she gets one more than I do. You won’t get on if you don’t ask.

Tell someone about your business

How many of your friends know about your business? You most likely are keeping it a secret because you don’t what to hear their opinion or you are afraid they will judge you in some way. Pick two friends, acquaintances, or people in the street and tell them something about your business. You don’t have to give a presentation just something simple. “Hi, I am working with small business owners that want to get better results. Do you know anyone I can talk to?”

Make a video or do Facebook live

Videos are the best way to promote your business. It is so easy to make a video now using your smartphone. Practice making short videos to post on Youtube (you can always keep it private). After you get better at it, you can do Facebook live!

Do something new

What are you avoiding because you don’t know how to do it? What would happen if you tried and failed? For some reason, we think if we can’t do something perfectly the first time then we shouldn’t even try. Everyone starts at the beginning.

Maybe you could take a dance class. Of course, you may have two left feet but you aren’t trying to be in a professional dance group! What if you practice and you love it! Take a painting class. It may be just the creative outlet you need to clear your head. Who cares if you are good at it! Try fixing something that is broken.

 

Get out of your comfort zone. Write down how it made you feel. Make a habit of doing something every day that makes you feel uncomfortable.   You will be surprised that you will begin getting comfortable with uncomfortable.

What makes you uncomfortable that is keeping you from getting results? What small micro commitment could you make to begin to get out of your comfort zone?

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5 things to do when you feel your are not good enough

 

What if you are not good enough?

Why would anyone hire someone that is new in the business? There are so many people better than me.What if someone finds out what I don’t know? Do you find yourself not pursuing a new client or opportunity because you don’t think you are good enough?

When I started my first professional job as an Occupational Therapist I felt inadequate. I wondered how was I going to be as good as other therapists with more experience. Why would someone want to hire me when there were people much more qualified that they could hire.  I worked with a wise woman who had been working in the field for many years. She reminded me that I still knew more than clients that I was serving.  She suggested that  I get a mentor and learn as much as much as I could.  I have started many new ventures over the years and I always remembered her words.

Anytime you start a new career or business you will find people that are more experienced than you. They may seem to catch on quicker, they are liked by everyone, and everything seems to come easily to them. 

 We spend so much time beating ourselves up. You can’t compare yourself to other people. There are no two people that are the same. We all have different experiences that shape our personality and skills. Chances are those same people you are comparing yourself to have had similar feelings about their skills. They may be comparing themselves to someone they feel is achieving more than they are.  The next time you feel like someone’s  stronger, healthier, more accomplished, then do the following things.

Start Exercising

It might seem like an odd first step but it works. When you exercise your mood will be boosted and you’ll start feeling better about yourself. Exercise releases endorphins which are the feel-good chemicals that make you feel good. You all have a feeling of accomplishment and will begin to have better self-esteem.

Improve yourself

Start taking action. If you think someone is more fit than start exercising. If you feel like that someone is a better speaker than practice speaking if someone is better at making videos and start making videos. You are not going to get better by just wishing you were better.  To be good at anything you must have a growth mindset. 

Remind Yourself of Your Strengths

What are your unique characteristics and strengths?Are you compassionate, organized, a problem solver, good at brainstorming, a sense of humor, great at making forms, good at storytelling, etc? Make a list and review this list daily. The more you remind yourself of your strengths the better you will become. You will begin focusing on what you are good at and not what you struggle with. Someone out there needs your unique strengths.

Get a mentor

Successful people all have great mentors. They look for people that they admire and spend time learning from them. If you are feeling not good enough then look for someone better than you and learn from them. Ask great questions when you are with them. Follow their advice and when you go back to see them tell them what you have done.

Hire a coach

A coach can help you work through your insecurities about yourself. You probably have great skills but just can’t see them. Most of us tell ourselves that we are not good enough, and if,  you tell yourself that long enough you begin to believe it. A coach can help you break through those barriers. 

 

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Daily Goals will Keep You in a Success Mindset

What are your long term goals?
It could be to start a successful business, increase revenue or get in shape.

Now, what is your daily goal?

Most of us don’t focus on our daily goals. But daily goals are much more important than your long-term goals. Long term goals are often vague and seem too far away. It is hard to stay focused and motivated to work toward them.  Daily goals keep you motivated moving forward to achieve your goals.

Even if you have a ‘specific target’ like losing 20 lbs in a year, this is still much too broad and vague. Losing weight is dependent on many factors that are out of your control. If it is too far away, it is difficult to stay focused on the goal. If you set out to lose it in a year, you have lots of excuses not to start today.

The same is for any business goal. It is easy to say I will start working on that tomorrow, after all, I have a year to achieve it.

Having daily goals will make it easier to achieve your long-term goal.

Start with a vision – a very abstract vision or idea of what you want – and then break that down into the smallest possible steps that you can execute every day or every week. I usually start with planning 12 weeks out and then work backward. What do I want to achieve in 12 weeks? Then what is the smallest thing I can do each day to achieve that goal.

If you are trying to lose weight you can break that down to eliminating a particular snack or going for a 15 min run. They are small goals but you are more likely to keep that goal.

If you are trying to promote your online business you might write 15 min a day so that you always have fresh content. That’s a small goal but it’s perfect for sticking to because it is completely within your control.

If you don’t run or write for 15 min it is in your control but you can start again tomorrow.

If you keep accomplishing those smaller daily goals, they eventually add up. Eventually, you manage that big goal.
And the same goes for every other type of objective too.

  What is the one thing you can do consistently that will move you toward your goal? 

I use Goals on Track online software and phone app to keep track of my goals. It is a great way to keep yourself accountable. Check it out HERE

 

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Change Your Mindset, Change Your life

There are many beliefs about the secret to success. Some claim that the secret is motivation, ambition and being positive. While all of those things contribute to success the most critical component to success is to have a burning desire.

Desire Comes From Within

It seems obvious that if you are going to be successful that you should want to be a success. But some of us think if we put in the long hours that success will happen. But if you really dont want to climb the ladder or grow a business it probably won’t happen. You will be competing against people that want it more than you.

You can’t have motivation without desire. It is the desire that keeps your eye on the end goal and keeps the fire in you to keep working. It is the desire that will keep you working toward the end goal even if you have not had a lot of success initially.

I remember reading a book that talked about finding your heart’s desire. At the time I was involved in a part time business that was not particularly successful. As I listened to the book I realized that my business was not working because I did not have my heart into it. I wanted the financial rewards but did not want the business. For me financial success was not enough, I needed to want to do the business. Desire is what keeps you awake at night.

First your desire needs to be realistic, and second, your desire needs to be concrete. A desire to be a ballet dancer for example probably is only going to end with disappointment if you were born with two left feet, and a desire to ‘be more successful’ is an abstract aim that’s really quite subjective.

How to Find Your Desire

If you are struggling to know what your desire is, then think of your life now as it is.

What do you want your life to look like in 5 and 10 years? What do you love doing? What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? Now think of how your life would look if you had everything the way you want it. Write everything down. How can you get to your desired life? What is one thing you can do today to move you closer to your desire?

You may not have an ideal job or career that is important, but you want to make more money to travel. Is the desire big enough to work hard move up in your career or to have a second job?

You may want to stay at home with your kids, but you need to make enough money to stay home. Is the desire to stay home big enough to keep you motivated to work from home or do you also need to need to be satisfied with your work?

What if You Have the Desire but Still no Success?

Desire is one of the most important components of success but if you don’t believe you can succeed, then you won’t. Your subconscious mind feeds your conscious mind continually. If you keep telling yourself negative thoughts such as I are not good enough, I can’t be successful, or I don’t have a business brain your conscious mind will believe it. You have to feed your subconscious mind with positive statements.

Daily Affirmations

If you want to change your mindset, you know you have to have a desire, but you also need to believe. Belief in yourself can change with daily affirmations. Successful people get up every morning and say aloud positive affirmations such as:

I make enough money to live the life I want
I am meet all of my productivity goals each week
I run faster everyday
I am energetic and can accomplish my goals
I am patient with my children

What affirmations can you say to yourself to change your mindset?

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